Energy protection looking for help

[Sylvy]

Hi, 

I am wondering if anyone can help me here. I have a neighbor who moved into the building next to mine sometimes in spring last year. He seems to be constantly at home (so am I) and our balconies are very close. 
He is always outside the building smoking or on the balcony smoking and often speaking on the telephone. I attempted to ignore him at first but I often keep my windows open and the cigarette smoke would come in and then I would know he is outside. I also often hear him speaking on the phone. In short I am starting to feel like a live with this guy. He also at some point started collecting the alcoholics in the neighborhood who then sometimes would smoke outside with him. This never happened before he moved in. This is a quiet neighborhood, and though there are all kinds of people living here, people are very private and do not generally hang out outside the buildings. This seems to made him feel like he is the only one in the whole street and treat the street and building practically as his own private property. He is carrying some very bad energy. 
Ever since he moved in my mood has been awful, I am feeling stressed all the time and cannot relax. My mind is in a perpetual state of fog. I want to move but I am incapable of even organizing myself to do so because I feel perpetually blocked.
I attempted to ignore him as much as possible and not give him any importance but the real problem I realized was energetic because I realized that even if I don’t see him or think about him I feel bad. I realized this because he left for about a month in August and again this month he was gone for a few days and both these times my mood and wellbeing completely shifted to normal although it took me some days to realize he was gone. And once he came back, though I haven’t noticed or seen him right away my mood again became horrible and my mind extremely disturbed. I woke up from one day feeling great the next day feeling horrible and couldn’t figure out why until I realized he returned. I can sense his presence and that disturbs me.  My mind has been in a perpetual state of fog, I feel like I am constantly energetically blocked and I don’t know how to protect myself or get him to back off. The whole point of moving and staying here for me was so that I can be private and quiet. I am a meditator so I am more sensitive to these things. I feel like having him near is draining my energy and it’s making it difficult to properly focus on anything. It’s driving me crazy. I stay alone and have no one here to help me. I know he feels completely unthreatened by anything. If anyone can tell me what can I do in this situation, or offer some perspective I would appreciate it. 

Edited November 18, 2021 by Sylvy

[cammie]

Hi Sylvy, 

I sympathize with your situation, we all want to feel comfortable and safe when we’re at home, so my following perspective is based on the assumption that you don’t actually feel threatened by this individual, and that he just has some baggage. Obviously don’t ignore your gut instincts if something is seriously off.  Moving is *always* an option.  

Otherwise, it sounds to me like you’re an empath and are unintentionally picking up on this dude’s stuff. A lot of empaths don’t know how to *not* do that. We feel like it’s expected of us, that it’s our role in the universe but that is really not the case. In some ways dealing with this not only requires you to become very clear on what belongs to you and what belongs to your neighbor, but also why you agree to let his energy affect you in the first place. Why aren’t you the one affecting his energy? You shouldn’t have to feel like you’re being backed into a corner energetically just because this guy lives next door.

To no small extent this world really wants us to feel powerless. You don’t have to agree to that. Without knowing much of anything about you or your neighbour the only real advice I can give is to remember you’re not powerless in this situation, and whatever you need to do to feel better is not only possible but probable as long as you’re willing to take action. That could mean a variety of things such as self-healing to understand why this person bothers you so much (besides the obvious), learning how not to let his energy affect you or let it into your home, or even by just moving homes. Finding appropriate intents for this situation is a good starting point, like “I intend to deflect his energy” and then finding the power behind that intent and moving to where it works. Sometimes when I find myself in overwhelming situations where a lot of people are present (like crowded malls or shopping centers) I’ll put up an energetic mirror to deflect the energy around me. Not really ideal to do all the time, but it’s somewhere to start and might give you some space and clarity to see what is going on. 
 

Again, as long as there isn’t an actual threat present, you can approach this as a learning opportunity to harness your sensitivity to be a tool to use when you want instead of letting it control how you feel. 
 

-c 
 

 

[Sylvy]

Hi cammie, 

thank you for the reply. I’ve thought about this to some extent.

On 11/19/2021 at 1:55 AM, cammie said:

dealing with this not only requires you to become very clear on what belongs to you and what belongs to your neighbor, but also why you agree to let his energy affect you in the first place. Why aren’t you the one affecting his energy?

First of all, I am not agreeing to anything. My consent is not asked for here which is the whole problem. 
Secondly, it’s a good point, why am I not affecting his energy? 
On one hand it’s possible that I am but in a way which is suiting him as I am a non-aggressive person with a spacious mind so he might feel unthreatened or even encouraged. I had problems with this before. People feel “invited” into my space simply because I have that kind of accommodating energy although I am not inviting them. That “accommodating” spaciousness is something I have been working to develop consciously, but it doesn’t mean I do not have boundaries. But dull minded people do not distinguish between being open and having “weak” boundaries. It’s the same to them. And if I set my boundaries with determination and more obviously they interpret it as aggression. And that then invites a whole set of different problems. 

On the other hand, whatever “intention” I have set out it hasn’t worked because I am dealing with someone who is apparently so dull minded that he is dead inside and therefore isn’t affected much by anything. He moves through space like a bulldozer unselectively clearing or absorbing everything in his path. He’s a simple minded brute and therefore nothing so subtle as someone’s intention will ever reach him unless it’s in his face and I do not want to have any verbal contact with him. 

Not to mention, what he is doing is also actually illegal here where I live. Not just the smoking in the areas outside which is not allowed but he also smokes marijuana which is definitely illegal by law. But that’s how unbothered he is. 
Ever since he showed up I was thinking to report him to the owners or even the police but that would mean I have to get myself involved in a whole other saga which I’d have to waste more of my time on. 

I did have success at first by making him uneasy and retreat by slamming windows or playing high pitched female singing songs (drives these kind of idiots insane) but he got used to it after a while and now he’s not even bothered by that. 
The whole thing is much worse because I am not even living here because I want to, but because my movement had been restricted by the pandemic which makes it even more important to “befriend” my environment and make myself feel safe and autonomous in my space until I can leave.
 

 

Edited January 1, 2022 by Sylvy

[Vargtid]

Sylvy,

I read your OP, and tbh scanned your reply, but I believe I know where you're coming from.

I've lived in a couple of large cities, in particular one which gave me an overall negative energy which I could sense, and somewhere I have a book on it... The point is that negative energy is going to be one thing that affects you.  I believe it's your ability to overcome it which defines how strong you can be.  

When I lived in Phoenix I felt a lot of negative energy from my neighbors in particular.  What I did to combat that was to close my door, dress in more ceremonial robe, and frequent shops that catered to my more precise beliefs.

I want to say that you cannot let one negative existence hamper what you know is your life's calling.  Where I practice is communication with spirits, and living even where I do, in the middle of the desert, they surround my house by the hundreds.  Instead of focusing on the negative, I say focus on the positive.  I have one spirit in my house which keeps everything at bay.  Personally, and this is just me, I've boarded up my windows, from the inside (as to be inconspicuous from the outside), and this spirit I know, when I close my door, keeps me and my house safe.  It's different for everyone, but that's my input.

-Varg

[cammie]

Hi Sylvy, 

I think it can be really easy to be judgmental and a lot harder to meet people where they’re at with compassion. My first post was to encourage you to feel like you had options. The world isn’t an “either or” kind of place. You don’t have to be a victim of circumstance. But being passive aggressive and doling out judgement about who or what is good or bad doesn’t really help anyone either. 
 

On 1/2/2022 at 5:05 AM, Sylvy said:

I do not want to have any verbal contact with him. 

Have you ever talked to him? Usually when you get to know someone it’s easier to be empathetic where they’re at in life. I realize you might not want to get to know this particular person, but it actually might make you feel better if you did. Or at least easier to live next to them for the time being. 
 

Unfortunately, I can tell you this, no one is going to wave a magic wand and make your life perfect for you. Life doesn’t owe us shit and if we want it to look a certain way we have to work to understand why we’re where we are. We have to work to understand ourselves, and in turn to see the world just a little more clearly. Things and people that bother you, that push your buttons, are golden opportunities to learn more about yourself if you’re willing. 
 

-C 

[linda]

I would recommend you create a nice energy grid around your space.  Preferably with sacred geometric shapes.  This can act as a shield.  Avoid using energy mirrors as you don't want to spread or return any heavy vibes to anyone. 

I teach these things to my clients so if you have questions, please reach out.

I hope this helps you.

[Sylvy]

The neighbor has finally moved out a few days ago. I cannot describe how much lighter I feel. It’s as if a huge weight had been lifted and I am finally coming back to myself. I only now realize how blocked I was by him being here and what a horribly negative energy he was carrying (it wasn’t in my mind). He just carried such a sense of disorder and now that he’s gone I can finally see how much of it rubbed off on me constantly while he was here. I still caught myself thinking about him the past few days, not actively, but it kind of passes through my mind, like a habit, this state of constantly being prepared to see him outside. It became part of my life to constantly feel uncomfortable knowing I am “surrounded” and it will probably take some time for it to leave my system. I am horrified at how much energy it drained from me especially in these kind of circumstances where I was cornered by the pandemic to live in a place where I usually wouldn’t choose to be. I am good at organizing  my energy and space but when someone is literally in your home all the time it’s a different story.
But now I feel free again. At last!!

I see there have been a few more replies, so I just want to briefly reply too. 
First of all, 

On 1/15/2022 at 8:57 AM, Vargtid said:

When I lived in Phoenix I felt a lot of negative energy from my neighbors in particular.  What I did to combat that was to close my door, dress in more ceremonial robe, and frequent shops that catered to my more precise beliefs.

I want to say that you cannot let one negative existence hamper what you know is your life's calling.

When I moved in here I was doing the same. This however, made people around bother me more because I was “different”. Before this guy moved in, another neighbor was stalking me for two months, was ringing my doorbell every week to “check up on me” and in the end broke into my apartment after I started ignoring her. This was caused by the fact that when I first came here I had a polite conversation with her. She offered me help if I needed it and I said the same. But then as time went by and I didn’t need any help and she decided that she wanted to be a part of my life whether I want it or not because I had a different energy she wanted to “probe”, so she decided to force herself into my life. So she started coming to my door telling me that I must be lonely, or that I don’t look so good (implying that I need her). She asked me for my phone number twice and twice I said no. And finally when I decided after a few such encounters that I don’t need someone regularly bothering me like that, coming to my door acting like something was wrong with me, and I stopped answering the door (which I told her I would do) she continued to ring the doorbell every week for two months and in the end broke into my apartment saying that she was “worried I was dead” because she hasn’t seen me in some time. Now I don’t think I have to tell you what kind of underhanded bs that was. She trying to justify her agression by supposed “good intentions”.  All my statements about being fine and self-sufficient those first times we spoke just went over her head. So unfortunately, positive energy and doing your thing only makes some people aggressively want to butt in, in my experience. I was a subconscious threat to her though we don’t even know each other.

 

On 1/16/2022 at 1:01 AM, cammie said:

Have you ever talked to him? Usually when you get to know someone it’s easier to be empathetic where they’re at in life. I realize you might not want to get to know this particular person, but it actually might make you feel better if you did. Or at least easier to live next to them for the time being. 

If it was a different situation, maybe I would’ve talked to him. But I didn’t need to talk to him to know him. I already know everything about him because I met hundreds of guys like him and I know everything he is thinking. Most people aren’t that unique despite the popular narrative. Also, that’s what he would’ve wanted. That would’ve made him even more comfortable to impose. 

I know the popular belief is to think we are all independent and sovereign about our lives and thoughts. But that’s not true. We all influence each other and shape our experiences in relation to what surrounds us be it consciously or unconsciously. The more the energy around you slips into your unconscious, the less you are bothered by it because it has managed to shape you. In some cases that can be a good thing, if you are surrounded by positive or useful people or energy. This usually happens when we decide to be or we already are “empathetic”.
So just like you would protest if someone immersed you in a pool of toxic waste or forced you to ingest poison, you would try to regurgitate it or find an antidote, the same thing applies to unwanted company. You can’t just “wish away” the poison or “make peace with it” by changing your attitude (unless you want to die). What is toxic is simply toxic. We are after all, embodied beings with a limited amount of energy. 
 

And yeah, toxic people do “push my buttons” and I am grateful for that because I always want to be sensitive and conscious when it comes to negative or unwholesome energy. It shows I have discernment, that I am conscious rather than unconscious. But that doesn’t mean I need to put up with it or feel like I am “weak” for being affected. Being powerless at times is a part of life as anything else. Disowning that fact altogether is neurotic. 

 

Edited April 25, 2022 by Sylvy

[Sylvy]

I celebrated prematurely. The neighbor is gone but turns out over the year he trained the local alcoholics to smoke outside with him so now they keep gathering even though he is gone. They wouldn’t have dared to smoke and gather outside before but he made them feel “empowered”. I see now that they intend to continue his “tradition”. This place has become infested with malevolence and disorder. 

[Vargtid]

As far as your reply to a part of my post, I think you should be more aware.  I formerly served time in prison for burglary, and will tell you that that person was exhibiting the number one MO of home invasion.  It was likely nothing to be fair, on that topic.  But people like this have ways and means of their own.  I personally try not to understand others' motivations; people act of their own accord.

But as I mentioned, yes that's true.  And so I know.  When someone comes to your door and acts as such it's them casing your house.  I am fine now and off drugs and all of that for some time, but that is the MO of home invasion.  You likely already knew that.  I'm on this forum to help as I can with my own experience.

-Varg

[FinWanderer]

Living environment... that's an interesting topic

Kind of same problem here, except that we have tried to move about 7 times in the past six years, yet the same crap happens every time in different orders.

Problems with the apartment itself, problems with the neighbors, if these don't exist in the beginning they will start emerging, but often they emerge very fast or immediately when we move in. They also tend to add up the longer we stay in one place. Once we stayed for 2 years, and besides of the neighbors constantly ??? jumping towards the wall or what not, and drilling holes all the time, some other neighbors started clanging on the radiator at 3 o clock in the morning, and just the day before we moved from there someone broke into our storage unit to mess it up.

Sigh, even in most peaceful looking neighborhoods there is something weird incoming when we move in. Neighbor dancing in the storage units room in middle of night, roof making terrible noise at the wind, mold, someone making bottle bombs and exploding them at night, sudden invasion of house flies in autumn, neighbors playing music at 5 am, when playing music (or just weird background noises???). i mean the list goes on and on.

Tried energy cleansing too but doesn't seem to do much. Current place where i'm living, it's really weird... because i lived here in this very same building a lot of years ago.  The energy around here is terrible! And i know i'm not supposed to be here, somehow i ended up here, hopefully to close something off my life, so i can go on with my own life.

Btw, about  cleansing, it's interesting that both me and my spouse felt anxious after burning mugworth.

 

I actually think that at this point, i have some sort of PTSD like symptoms because of having so many different, yet similar issues on every place where we have lived in past years. 

We actually got a shamanic healer to help us with our constant problems, last summer... But it seems she only made them worse, than what they had been for a while. So I cannot help not to regret getting help from her. She claimed to have seen a lot, and done a lot. But she also claimed that she promised nothing, although i feel like she kind of did.

Difficult to explain, but what I mean, I'm quite sure, in my case there is some sort of malevolence playing upon this loop.

Edited May 13, 2022 by FinWanderer

[FinWanderer]

Another,

Funny thing actually, apparently the previous tenant in this apartment was some sort of a fundamental Christian, might be part of the reason why the energy here is so different from mine, it's as if i had to burn incense 24/7 to be able to breathe. I mean his mail is still coming, regarding to some other mail, which i have not opened but can read the labels... he is dead, this is second time I'm getting dead persons mail in last years.

Well to be more precise, i think in this case, the dead person's son lived here... But the mail was turned here for reason or another.

This second reply is quite trivial anyways, i do not identify my problems with this particular case, as they have been present before - this is just another example in the list of weirdness. Which i know yes, can occasionally happen on random, but i don't think that's the case.

Edited May 13, 2022 by FinWanderer