Lonely

[Babylace94]

I haven't had any friends in 4 years. I've been feeling very lonely but its hard for me to feel connections with most people, especially since i have no worldly interests. The only spiritual person i know is my ex, but speaking with him would make my spouse uncomfortable so i would prefer not to. I need friends. I need spiritual friends who arent gonna think im crazy when i tell them about all the energies i feel, the beings i see out the corner of my eyes, the messages i receive from my spirit guides. I need someone who understands to listen and guide me as any other friend would

[Karl]

Sorry to hear that - are there places you could go to, nearby, where similar-minded people might hang out? Everybody needs people to talk to.. 

[Alex]

https://www.meetup.com/topics/pagan/

The should also be some non-denominational pagan churches around wherever you are.

 

I find that my expectations of failure, of loss, of how I am all act as a barrier towards bonding with people. When you let down your expectations and loosen up your mask, when you begin to accept other people for who they are and don't hold them to your expectations you will begin to see something interesting. It's not about whether their mask meets your expectations. You can bond with anyone.

 

The question you might ask is why is it so difficult to bond with others when it used to be so natural. At one point it was hard not to bond especially as you go back to when you were younger.

[Babylace94]

It was never natural for me to bond with others. And similar minded people certainly aren't around here. Its mostly ghetto people with a sprinkle of nerds. I love all beings but with most people i just feel no connection. I have no interest in tv or video games or sports.. nothing. It makes it hard to have things to speak about with others. I'm just not relatable. This community and these forums have helped a lot on my journey so far and I'm appreciative of you all

Edited August 24, 2018 by Babylace94

[Moonshadow]

Hi. 

People who are bent have a hard time forging friendships and connecting with the mainstream in the world. Sometimes those who are drawn to the shamanic often go through phases where they stop the world too, especially when they come to that nexus where they want to fundamentally change who they are and heal. It may be something your energy is doing consciously or unconsciously, to give yourself the space to see what you want to make in the world. One thing I've grown to realize it that there's a difference between being lonely and alone. I think once you've cleared your table top and healed a little more you'll begin to connect more with the world and the people in it, but on your terms, and like-minded people will come your way.  

I'm glad you're here, and someone is always down for a chit chat

 

[KAF]

I have always felt out of place with other people and don't have many friends but it is my choice,  and I'm oftentimes an outsider.  I often feel bored with this entire plane of existence ( if I watch a movie it's as if I know how it will turn out so there is very little enjoyment I get out of things).  I have often felt as if I don't belong here and shouldn't be here which makes me feel lonely but I have accepted this and have a found peace within myself from it.  I find more at ease in nature then I do with groups of people even if it is in my own backyard watching the animals. I think once you accept yourself and this is who you are you will feel more at ease.

[Babylace94]

What do you all do to occupy your free time? I cant sleep or meditate or exercise all day everyday. But nothing else seems to have any amount of fulfillment 

[Moonshadow]

I’d intent to discover what brings me fulfillment and joy. Try new things. Spend time in nature. Find Creative outlets like painting or language coding. Sewing clothes,  wood work or making music... it just depends on the person. It’s good to find things it will make you feel less restless. Plus it will give you hands and mind something to do as your energy grows and changes.

 

Mandy

[Stacey]

BL94,

I'm echoing points that were made here for reiteration. To go out in nature helps me tremendously- to the sea, to the woods, anywhere in which bonding with the elements is called for. If I'm unable to make it, at least stuffing my pockets with herbs and rocks, taking my shoes off out there helps me calm down, grounds me. It keeps me in touch with my journey of finding out who I am...and maybe that's what's calling to you, too. What's been most helpful was figuring out what my values are, and little steps I could take to act in alignment with them. In effect, this brings people with whom I share similar values or at least interests to me. Values change and there's even been grief over what I've perceived to be failure, but it doesn't matter, because it's brought me to where I am now...I know what I want from my life and I know what it wants from me.

All the best to you :)

S.

[MarthaWoodbury]

Hey, I would say that you should move outside to find new people make new friends and talk with them, this will help you a lot.